Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Saranggola and Romance

Emotion is part of every human being as well as the mind. But, most of the time, the two are out of sync. I think everybody will agree to that.

A friend lent me her book entitled Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris. Out of the plentiful contents of the book, two particular articles became prominent and striking to me. One of them is the author's analogy about the relationship between romance and wisdom. Here it goes:

The Kite and the String

I like to think that the relationship between wisdom and romance is like the one between a string and a kite. Romantic love is the kite that catches the wind and tenaciously heads for the sky; wisdom is the string that tugs downward, holding it back. The tension in real, but healthy.

I suppose there are times when a kite feels tied down by the string. "If this bothersome string would just let go of me, I could fly really high," the kite might think. But that isn't true, is it? Without the string holding it in the face of the wind, the kite would quickly come crashing to the ground.

In the same way, romance without wisdom will soon take a nosedive. It becomes selfish, indulgent, and even idolatrous. Have you been in a relationship like this? Have you witnessed such a relationship in the life of a friend? What was it missing? The answer is wisdom.

It's not enough to simply have romantic feelings. Anyone can do that! Long-lasting romance needs practical, common-sense wisdom that knows when to let the wind of feelings carry us higher and when to pull back. When to express our emotions and when to keep quiet. When to open our hearts and when to rein them in.

That makes sense.

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